The serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and
supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
I saw this post on CafeMom sort of using the serenity prayer:
"Women should not feel guilty if they are unable to breastfeed, but they should feel guilty if they are unwilling to do so, and they should be intellectually honest enough to know the difference." ---Elizabeth Gene
I think that's a great quote. I also feel that moms who cannot breastfeed for whatever reason will feel a sense of anguish or loss. Like the loss of their ideal birth experience...it's something that can't really be done over. (Yes, relactation is possible, but very hard and would require a lot of determination and support.) Whereas feeling a sense of guilt is more like a label for a misdemeanour or knowingly doing something wrong. But like I've often seen on message boards...people need to own their feelings. Nobody can make anybody feel anything. And you can change the way you feel. Just don't think about it or do something to change your feelings for the better. "Feelings are what you make them."